Everybody’s heard the expression ‘That rubs me the wrong way’. But what about when you rub someone the right way? When it comes to improving your sex life, the fact is that a little massage can go a very long way. First of all, understand that there’s a big difference between giving a proper massage and just a kind of half hearted backrub before trying to get into her pants. You need to think about massage as a kind of sex all in and of itself instead of just an ends to a means. It takes work, and a little bit of skill. But if you’re looking to improve your ability to satisfy during sex, figuring out the best massage techniques is far more important than just trying to add a few new sex positions or toys to the bedroom.
There are a few great massage techniques worth thinking about when you’re trying to maximize her pleasure. Here are some things to remember.
- Get started the right way before you even begin. Add some essential oils to a warm bath and light some candles. The ambiance is romantic all on its own, but the soak will also help relax her muscles so that when you start working your magic it really leaves her weak with pleasure and desire.
- Start off with her feet. This goes against what most people do, which is to start with the shoulders and then work up. Instead, use some sensual massage oil and begin with her feet. Gradually work your way up her calves and legs.
- As you move upwards, give a little extra attention to her inner thighs, her glutes, and her pectoral muscles. Light compressions and massage in her erogenous zones can get her really in the mood and often aren’t given attention by masseurs. Don’t linger too long or make it seem like you’re trying to penetrate her with your hands. An occasional touch to her vagina may be okay, but don’t overdo it.
- Use your body, not just your hands. As you move up her body you’ll likely be straddling her. Use long, sliding motions as you move your hands up her back and at the same time slide your lower body over hers. It adds a little excitement, a bit of a tease, and can help drive her wild.
- Be patient. This is the main thing to remember at all times. Don’t let your own excitement ruin the moment. Take your time. The wait will be well worth it.