Is there anything more fraught than making the decision to have sex with someone for the first time? On the one hand, sex is a very serious business: women, in particular, risk disease, pregnancy, and physical violence, as well as the not-as-dire-but-still-sort-of-terrible possibility of having a really awkward experience with someone else while naked.
On the other hand, orgasms. So what to do? Everyone’s sexual needs are different, and each one of us envisions sex being incorporated into our lives in our own way.
Some people are happy with casual hookups; some only want sex as part of committed, long-term relationships; some want to hold off on sex until marriage.
Some people aren’t entirely certain what they ultimately want, but they do know that, for now, in this moment, it might include sex.
These are all (you don’t need me to tell you) absolutely acceptable things to want. That said, no matter what you want, or whether you’re looking to sleep with someone you’ve known for five years or someone you just met five hours ago, there are a few constant preliminaries that you should take care of beforehand to make sure that the experience is safe, comfortable, and happy.
Sex is one of the most memorable experiences for many of us but for many, it’s a terrifying experience. The reason is the lack of knowledge. Better knowledge of sex will make your lovemaking better.
You need to dispel certain myths and unreasoned, baseless and unfounded notions about certain sex matters. This article will discuss some important things you need to know before having sex for the first time to make it your life’s most exciting experience.
The length of a penis is the most discussed issue of male sexuality. Some men think that by having a lengthy male organ they can get more pleasure during coition and that their partner would also get sexually worked up or excited.
Men also nurture an idea that their spouse prefers the persons who have a long and hard erection. But, certain women also are afraid that by pushing the lengthy male organ in their vaginas, their male partners will rip their vaginas apart.
Actually speaking, the length of the erection must not cause any sort of inferiority complex or any fear in the minds of either sex. It is not the length that matters, but what matters is as to how long and how best a man can satisfy his spouse.
The short length of the male organ should be no cause for concern for any male. Certain men, even when they have a long penis do ejaculate earlier and thus fail to satisfy their sexually aroused women.
On the contrary, some men, even with not a lengthy male organ, are not found inferior in sexually satisfying their women.
The women are not concerned with the length; they are concerned to how best their men can quench their sexual thirst to achieve orgasm. Length is mere psychological phobia which must be dispelled as soon as possible.
When a penis is flaccid (non-erect position) is usually is 3″ long so, and 4″ or so from base to tip. In normal erectile position, the length would be around 6.5″ or so, with slight variations. So, it is rather immaterial as to how long the size should be. What, in fact, matters and should matter as to how and in what way, and, above all, how long can a man hold his ecstasy.
Remember, length of the penis has no relation with virility and sex performance of a man. Never let the size be a hurdle in the enjoyment of sexual activity, rather concentrate your attention, on other new aspects of love play.
Having meaningful conversations about sex is important. The longer we work in the sex education field, the more we see how important it is to bring meaningful conversations about sex into the light.
When we silence these conversations, we create a perfect environment for shame to grow. If we feel shame, we don’t seek answers to our most important questions. Misinformation can have consequences, both to our physical and mental wellbeing.
Sexuality is a big part of most romantic relationships. Being able to communicate about what is and is not working in all aspects of a relationship is key to its sustainability.
Here are the 10 facts you know about the sexual encounter:
1.Have an orgasm. Yes, before you start having sex, you should give yourself an orgasm. It’s important to know what feels good to you before you can show another person what feels good to you. Know the other person’s sexual history.
2.Know The other person’s STD status, As Well as Your own. The only way to know this for sure is to be tested! And if you’re both virgins, well, you’re not going to be for long. You might as well get that scary first STD testing out of the way so you’ll know what to expect next time around.
3.Talk about Exactly What STD Protection And Birth control you Will Be Using. These two issues go hand-in-hand (for heterosexual couples), and it is the domain of both parties to be intimately involved.
4. If you Are part of A Heterosexual couple, Talk about What Happens if The Woman Gets pregnant. Here are a few options to talk about, in alphabetical order: abortion, adoption, raising the kid alone, raising the kid together. With the understanding that reality is different than the theoretical, make sure you’re both on the same theoretical page.
5. Have your Best Friend’s Blessing. We can rarely see someone we’re in love with clearly. It is often our best friends who can see our lovers and our potential lovers for who they really are.
Listen to what your best friend has to say, and take it to heart. If it’s not what you wanted to hear, give it some time. Wait a month. A good relationship will be able to withstand another month before having sex. Then ask a different friend, and see what they have to say.
6. Meet your partner’s parents. At the very least, make sure you know why you haven’t met your them. The best sex comes out of knowing someone well, and knowing someone’s family is an important part of knowing them.
7. Be comfortable Being Naked in Front Of each Other. You don’t actually have to strip down in broad daylight to make sure you’ve reached this milestone, but it sure helps!
8. Have condoms on Hand. Make sure they fit right, that they’re within the expiration date, and that they haven’t been exposed to extreme conditions (like the inside of a really hot car). Condoms should be part of any respectful sexual relationship. There need be no assumption of hookups outside of the relationship, just an assumption of good sexual habits being made and kept.
9. Sex While Menstruating, Is Not Harmful. Making love during one’s menstrual cycle is in no way a harmful experience. In fact, many studies have proved the opposite – stating that lovemaking is much more satisfying and pleasurable.
10. Make Sure That your Partner Has Done all of These Things Too. Part of a happy, healthy sexual encounter is taking care of everyone’s emotional needs and physical health.
Both people need to pay attention to themselves and to their partner. That way each person has two people looking out for them. It’s just the best way to do things.
Secrets You Should Know Before You Make Love
So, you read up on those sex positions and are giving her the stud bit when you are making love, but is she enjoying the experience? Make sure you practice the basic tips below when you are making love!
- Cleanliness – It is Not Very Difficult To Go For A Shower Before you engage in any Physical activity. An unclean and sweaty body can never be a turn on unless you are watching it on a movie. You should smell fresh, even if not cologne fresh. Nobody likes to be gagging on a smell of sweat when they are being made love to.
- Make It A Personal Experience. A Woman likes to think that you are making love to HER and not just any other woman. Make it more personal by whispering her name at times and talking to her.
- Concentrate on Mental Foreplay Also. Makeup sex is ok, but do not expect her to greet you in lacy underwear when you have been cribbing about an untidy house the whole evening! Complimenting and sexy talk can work better than an aphrodisiac, anytime and any day!
- The Worst Thing you can Do In sex is slipped Into A Routine. If you are the lip-breast-vagina kind at all times, it is time to change the routine. Explore other pleasure spots and nerve endings. Kiss her on the neck or caress her wrists and fingers. The navel is an excellent trigger!
- Handle Her softly. No matter how excited you are, no woman is turned on by claws and slurps! Remember that her body parts are soft and sensitive, so your touch should be gentle.
- Avoid climaxing Too Fast Or Too Slow. If you climax too fast, she will remain feeling incomplete. If you last too long, she will just turn sore and in pain. You can get a control over your climaxes by careful masturbation.
Sex is no longer be a secret that men are totally enthralled with their own penis. Men almost constantly think of sex throughout the day and these thoughts usually do not rest on how they are going to please their sexual partner.
This, of course, becomes a great detriment on the sex lives of the women involved in relationships with these men. And when the sex lives of the women suffer then guess who else has sexual difficulties?
When you place this much importance on your own sexual organ you virtually negate the need for a partner. There is no argument that sticking your penis into a vagina feels much better than using your fist, but if selfishly feeling better is your only goal you are not having sex, you are just getting off.
And guess what? If you constantly use your lady’s vagina for nothing more than sexual relief she will definitely pull away from you. The bottom line here is that if you do not put any effort into her experience she will soon cease to put out.
Learn to put something into sex besides your erection! Discover the art of intimacy and practice it on a continual basis. Remember that for a woman to achieve an orgasm is a process, and it should be a fun.
The efforts you put forth into foreplay are not just the motions you should go through until you cum, rather they are the building blocks to an exciting and satisfying sexual experience for both of you.
Kissing, touching, fingering, and licking the woman’s vital parts are necessary for her to achieve the ultimate orgasm and should be attractive to you if only for that reason!
So you should never underestimate the value of a good make-out session. All the caressing with your fingers and tongue are extremely valuable to her during sex. With each kiss, you are validating her existence and allowing her to know she is important to you and the moment.
No other person is allowed to connect with her, in the same manner, you will. Only you are allowed the privilege of touching, licking or sticking your body parts into her sexual organs.
“Wanting to have sex” may seem like a really obvious criterion for, you know, having sex, but I’m serious: Don’t sleep with someone unless you really, honest-to-God want to.
You should never feel pressured to have sex because you think you’re expected to, regardless of how much you’ve been flirting or how long you’ve been dating.
Remember that your lady love is yearning to be kissed and touched. She is waiting for you to be with her, she needs and wants the warmth of another person in a committed relationship and she should be allowed to expect it from you.
The secret of great sex is not just having an ability to shove a penis into a vagina and pump for a few minutes.
Rather sex is meant to be shared. Orgasms are meant to be coaxed out a bit at a time until they become one of the greatest feelings you could ever experience. Learning to give to a sexual experience as much as you take from it should definitely be high on your sexual goals.
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