‘It happens to lots of guys’ is probably one of the worst things a man can hear from his sexual partner. This phrase usually follows a less than satisfactory performance in the bedroom. One of the main problems for men is premature ejaculation. Almost every man has had to deal with this at least once in their life but there are some men who have to deal with this problem on a regular basis. There are things they can do to control premature ejaculation and give themselves and their partner a better sexual experience.
Many of the things men can do to control premature ejaculation are rather simple steps that will not be that big of a change in their day to day lives. One thing is to stay away from alcohol, tobacco and other drugs. Strengthening the pelvic muscles is another way men can help control premature ejaculation. Men can do Kegel exercises, which is a squeezing, tightening exercise that works the pelvic muscles. Also, the position they have sex can also help control premature ejaculation. When a man lies on his back the pelvic muscles tighten so ejaculation can be delayed. Letting the mind wander during sex can also delay premature ejaculation.
There are some exercises and techniques a man can try to control premature ejaculation. Using a start-stop method in sex will delay ejaculation because the sensations will be delayed during the stopped portions of the encounter. One example of this is using different methods of stimulation, like manual, oral and standard intercourse. Switching positions when orgasm feels eminent is another way to control premature ejaculation. This is a variation on the start-stop method. The man can also use masturbation and sex toys to build up a resistance to the feeling of sexual arousal which can control premature ejaculation.
Many of the issues that would lead a man to try to control premature ejaculation have no physical cause. Most of the issues are usually mental and are something that needs to be worked out by the man before the issue will be resolved. One of the biggest causes of premature ejaculation is anxiety, whether it is performance anxiety or just general anxiety. If the man gets his anxiety under control then he can made big strides to control premature ejaculation. Sometimes guilt, depression, medication side effects and an injury will cause issues that need to be handled in order to control premature ejaculation.