Premature ejaculation is a common concern among men and their sexual partners. When a man reaches his peak and orgasms too quickly, it can put a damper on sexual relations. Many people wonder why men ejaculate too quickly. The truth is nobody knows the exact reason. It is different for different people, so the key is finding what is causing your problem and working to find a solution for you. If you look for an overall cause, you are unlikely to find one, even though it is a common problem.
Orgasm and ejaculation are a complicated physical and emotional process. Though physical stimulus is usually enough to cause an orgasm, it is possible for the mind to distract from the sensation, leading to heightened or decreased arousal. Some men find that because they rushed to orgasm when masturbating, it has affecting their ability to relax and enjoy the experience now that they are sharing it with someone else. Sometimes, that fear of being caught when you were an adolescent exploring your body leads to an ingrained fear of getting caught, even in adulthood.
Another psychological factor is guilt. Unfortunately, there are still people who feel guilty about engaging in and enjoying sex. They rush through the experience because they think they are doing something wrong. If this sounds familiar and you experience guilt when having sex, you should discuss the problem with your partner. The two of you might be able to work through your feelings and reach a healthier emotional place. If not, you might want to consider seeing a sex therapist in order to explore your emotions. Anxiety and relationship problems also cause premature ejaculation.
There are also a number of physical reasons why a man might ejaculate prematurely. If a man is anxious about maintaining an erection, he might rush to ejaculate. Abnormal hormone levels can increase the speed of ejaculation. When hormones are out of whack, it has a serious effect on a person’s sex life. Abnormal levels of brain chemicals might also play a role. There are also thyroid problems, inflammation, and abnormal reflexes that can lead to a problem. In rare instances, men prematurely ejaculate because they are withdrawing from a medication or because there has been damage to the nervous system. Premature ejaculation might also be inherited, so if you can muster the courage up, ask your brother or father if this is a problem they have experienced.