Sex Life Of A Wife: What Happens After Giving A Birth To A Child

by Cheryl Powers

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Now that she has given birth to a bonny baby, and has returned home, should you jump into bed with her immediately and have a passionate bout of sex? Remember the doctor who had recommended not going in for sex during the later stages of pregnancy?

If you ask their opinion, they will recommend you to wait for 5 to 6 weeks before you resume intercourse again. Even though you feel like doing it just now, you should not. The female body undergoes lots of stress and sheer exhaustion during pregnancy and this takes some time to heal.

You might be in the mood for sex but it will be harmful to you. Whether you have had a vaginal delivery or a c-section one, there are bound to be abrasions on and near the vaginal area and these abrasions take time to heal.

If you opt-in for sexual intercourse after pregnancy, you risk additional damage to the vagina. You should give time for the postpartum bleeding to cease, the tears to heal, and the cervix to close. During those days, if you cannot resist having sex and have an urge for it, who not opt-in for foreplay?

Just fondle your partner’s private parts. Though this might not be as satisfying as real sex, it will cause the urge to subside. Just think of the immense joys and funs ahead of you and how you can damage them by being impatient.

This will assist you to avoid sex after childbirth. The physical and mental toughness of a woman also plays a large part in determining how soon she can resume sexual activities. There are many women who take just a few weeks to resume sex after pregnancy and then there are others who take months.

During these exciting times, when a woman is about to enjoy proper intercourse after pregnancy, they tend to throw caution to the winds. They never bother to take precautions that will help them to become pregnant again.

There are many types of pills and creams available in the market. Use them to avoid getting pregnant again. You can also suggest your partner to wear a condom. It makes sense to apply some lubricating gels on the vagina when going in for sex after pregnancy since the vagina tends to remain tender and dry at such times… more so if you are breastfeeding your newborn.

How Does childbirth Affect Your Sex Life And How To cope

How does childbirth affect sex life? When is it safe to resume sex, what to expect and how to reconnect with her will be discussed in the following paragraphs.

How Soon can You Have Sex Again

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This is the first question that probably most guys have in their minds – how soon or when is it safe to have sex after childbirth. Because having babies is so natural and common, many guys have difficulty appreciating just how dramatically a woman’s body changes during the postnatal recovery period.

This lack of awareness may be due to the male tendency of ignoring those problems we cannot solve and also to the lack of sufficient knowledge about this aspect of female sexuality.

Although individual circumstances vary, the typical medical recommendation is for a 6-week no-sex period after childbirth for her body to recover whether by normal delivery or by c-section. For some women, it can be even longer if there are some more complications or they are suffering from postnatal depression.

It is therefore very important for couples to have a frank discussion about their expectations and to reach an agreement on a time when they can start to have sex again.

How Does childbirth Affect The New Mother And Her Sex Drive

Tiredness is the first thing affecting every new mother. Looking after a baby can be very exhausting both physically and emotionally so that when you get to bed you just want to sleep. At the same time (the 1st few weeks after childbirth) her body is in a recovery mode – to give chances for the wound to heal and the stitches to dissolve. The hormonal changes that happen during this period can cause vaginal dryness, making sex very uncomfortable.

Generally, women are able to regain their desire within a couple of months after delivery. If her libido does not return or if she shows symptoms of postnatal depression, she should either see a doctor or get some counseling from an expert in sexual problems.

How Does childbirth Affect The couple’s Sex Life

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As she is busy with the baby and her body still recovering from childbirth, sex is the last thing in her mind. During this time, a man can feel neglected and view her wife’s lack of interest in sex as rejection.

These feelings of being neglected and rejected are hard for guys to acknowledge because this can make them look immature and selfish. Guys can overcome this by being reminded how important they are to their spouses.

It is therefore important for women to be aware of this and to reassure their men that they are still desirable through small gestures such as pampering the guys with some favorite dishes or writing some nice and sweet notes.

Empathy is needed to re-establish the emotional closeness in the relationship. Guys also need to understand that sex requires emotional as well as physical readiness.

After watching a partner through pregnancy and birth, some men gain a new respect for the female body. These guys are able to articulate their feelings easily about the new phase of their relationship and can become more considerate of their partner’s changing needs.

But some men who have witnessed the whole child delivery process are quite distressed by what they have seen. They feel so guilty at the pain their partner has gone through that they are unable to even consider the idea of making love with her again.

This is usually a temporary phase, but not always. If the guy continues to be troubled by this feeling, he should seek help from a counselor to discuss his feelings. perhaps the first priority for you as a couple is to give each other as much emotional support as possible. Words and cuddles can do much to convey affection and emotion. Both of you will benefit from this closeness.

on the physical side, sex does not have to mean full penetration as the stimulation from touching each other can be highly pleasurable.

A Man’s Guide To Having More Sex After His Wife Has A Baby

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congrats! You have become a parent, maybe for the first time, or maybe you already have children. What an exciting time! If you are a new parent, life will have to return to normal. This includes sexual relations with your wife. The bad news is, your sex life will be altered for the first little while.

For all the first time fathers out there, you may be wondering just exactly how sex after the baby will be. Here are a few tips and guidelines that will help you to make it through the transition. Your wife is going to need a little bit of room.

She will need her space and she will need some time to heal. This is not only needed to heal physically but emotionally as well. Women’s bodies do need time to heal after they give birth before they can resume their sex life.

The most common time frame doctors suggest is about one month. This is not a hard and fast rule, and your wife may be ready sooner, or she may take a little longer. Give her the time and space she needs.

Don’t expect your wife to initiate sex, especially if she is a first-time mother. Becoming a parent for the first time can be overwhelming.

The baby does not tell time, and when your baby wants to eat, you have to feed him or her. She may even not even be able to do normal day to day activities she did before she had the baby, including any cleaning or cooking that normally would be done.

To make this transition a little easier help out around the house. This will improve your relationship, which will pay dividends in the long run. Do the dishes, cook her favorite dinner, feed the baby or do the laundry.

Anything that you can do to help out around the house will help your wife feel more comfortable. After all, chances are she feels pretty overwhelmed, and by doing small things for her will let her know she is appreciated and she is not in it alone.

Most importantly, don’t try to rush your wife into having sex with you. If she is not ready, she is not ready, and trying to push it on her is not going to speed it up. In fact, you may end up doing the opposite.

physically she needs to heal. Maybe she feels if the baby is in the room that it is not appropriate. She may not be ready to hand over her child to another person yet. Getting away for a night or weekend will take awhile, so make sure you are patient, and let her know that you are ready when she is.

This is a great time to reintroduce the idea of wooing your spouse. Remember when you were trying to get her to fall in love with you. Bring her flowers, make dinner, leave her love notes, anything romantic that you can think of that you know she will enjoy and appreciate.

Enjoy this time with your baby, and remember that your life, including your sex life, will return to normal. It just takes a little bit of time.

A Few Things Every Husband Should Know

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If you have recently added a new addition to your family then let me be the first to say congratulations. There is nothing more wonderful or exciting than becoming a parent.

Though it is great and wonderful to be a new parent, many fathers ?uickly lose that excitement and want to return to their pre-baby sex routine. Most men are very disappointed to find out that their sex life is not going to return to normal right away.

If this is your first child then I am sure you are not familiar with how sex after a baby works for women. Here are a few helpful tips to help you out. Give your wife space. chances are she is not emotionally or physically ready to have sex.

Having a baby is a very draining process. Have compassion towards your wife. Don’t be selfish. After all, she just carried your baby for 9 months and went through several hours of labor to give birth. Your wife needs time to heal. Doctors recommend you wait at least a month before having sex after you have had a baby. please know that every woman is different.

Your wife may be ready to have sex much sooner or even much later than the average recommended time frame. Just play it by hear. Your wife will let you know when she is ready. Do not have high expectations right away. Having a baby is a very overwhelming experience, especially for moms. Remember she has to feed the baby late at night. She has to get up with the baby when the baby is crying at all times of the morning.

These things can and will prevent your wife from wanting to have sex. She will also not be able to get her normal daily tasks completed. Things such as cleaning the house or getting dinner prepared will all take a back seat to her having to care for the newborn baby.

The best way to get your sex life back to where you want it to be is to help your wife out. Do the dishes and cook dinner. Don’t let your wife feel completely helpless and overwhelmed after giving birth. pitch in. Helping out will give your wife fewer things she has to do and give her more time to possibly be intimate with you.

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Do not push your wife into having sex if she is not ready to do so. Remember she needs to heal. Also, if your baby is sleeping in your room then your wife will probably not feel comfortable being intimate. Take all factors into consideration. Be patient.

Take this time to “wow” your wife all over again like you did when you first met her. Be romantic. prepare a nice dinner. Send her flowers. Let her know you think she is the best mom in the world. These little things could possibly get your wife back in the mood for sex much sooner.

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