Being in a relationship can be magical and a wonderful experience for both partners involved in the relationship. When a relationship lasts for a long time, however, things can start to get somewhat “boring” when the two partners get too used to each other simply being there all the time. Thought Catalog explains that, on average, if an American couple’s relationship lasts for at three months, then there is a very good chance that it will be a long term relationship that will last at least four years. Sex is one particular aspect of a relationship that tends to get “boring” with time and partners often start to have sex fewer times the longer they are in the relationship. Luckily, there are many ways to “spice things up” and restore the spark that you had at the beginning of the relationship by simply being more open minded, using some creativity and, of course, trying some of the tips we are going to share with you in this post today.
1. Communication Is Key To Good Sex
Communication is not only one of the key factors to a good long term relationship, but it is also the key to having good sex – even in the long run. While it may seem like there is no need to communicate to each other about your sex lives when you have been together for a while, you’d be surprised at how many new things you and your partner may learn from each other when you communicate efficiently – even after you have been together for months or years. Thus, communicating openly about your sex life – including what both of you like and dislike in the bedroom – can be a significant help in ensuring your long term relationship stays on the positive side. Net Doctor UK explains that communication should always be an important part of a couple’s sex life as this will not only help to keep sex safe, but also make it more fulfilling.
2. Be Spontaneous
A relationship tends to get boring the longer it lasts. While the first few weeks or months can be quite exciting, the two of you may start to get so used to each other eventually that you simply start to take each other for granted. This can also have an adverse impact on your sex life and lead to having sex much less than you used to have. Getting rid of this “boring” feeling is often the perfect solution. Try something new for a change – like book a hotel room just so you and your partner can have sex in a new location. Have sex in a different room or suggest something that sounds completely crazy. Being spontaneous can be very beneficial for your relationship and, of course, your sex life.
3. Do Not Disavow Foreplay
When you have been together for a couple of months, you may be more keen on simply jumping “into it” when it comes to sex. The two of you are used to each other and this often makes a couple think that there is no need for “warming up” the session with some foreplay. Unfortunately, this can be a big mistake. Foreplay should be an essential part of your sexual intercourse routines – and you should try out different foreplay strategies. Don’t get used to one particular way to do “foreplay” and then repeat this method every time you have sex with your partner. Instead, be open and willing to try something new to do as a “foreplay” strategy every time sex is on the table.
4. The Sex Position Experiment
Vanilla sex might be suitable for many people, but it surely is a boring way of having sex. When sex is boring, the two partners may not always feel like having sex as they have gotten so used to the same routine every time sex comes up. Instead of relying on one particular sex position, rather experiment with different sex positions. There are many sex positions that can be exciting and even help the both of you experience a greater deal of pleasure.
5. Date And Sex Night
Thus far we have talked about how two partners can become “used” to each other and grow apart from each other. Sex can become frustrating and boring rather than exciting and desirable. There are actually ways to take the boring and make it exciting, even if the idea still seems boring. Setting a weekly date and sex night is an excellent example of how you can spice up something that would’ve been boring. Schedule one night every week that both you and your partner will be free. Set up an official date and make sure you do all in your power to ensure sex is also on the table following the date. Try a new place every week to keep things exciting.
6. The Tech-Free Zone
Technology advancements have given us a lot of benefits. We are able to communicate with each other no matter how far apart. We can draw up any kind of information and get answers to any question at the touch of a finger. Unfortunately, there is also some bad to the advancements in technology – this would be the fact that technology can interfere with a couple’s sex life. When you and your partner is sitting in bed with your laptops or smartphones, there’s a good chance you’ll each be in your own world. Unicorn reports that a recent survey revealed that more than 50% of individuals are less likely to have sexual intercourse when a smartphone is brought to bed. Make a new rule that states no technology in the bed and no technology after a certain time at night.
Sex is a vital part of many relationships. In fact, a lot of relationships would not be able to last for a long time if sex was not part of the relationship. Unfortunately, as the relationship grows older, the two partners often also start to grow apart from each other.This, in turn, often causes the two partners to have sex less often and it can often lead to “vanilla” sexual habits. If this sounds like your relationship, then be sure to try some of the tips we have shared here to ensure your sex life stays active and on the good side, even when you have been together for quite some time.